Without all of you here I might have turned into one of those 'Ex-JWs' that have a vendetta. I don't want to be like those ones.
This could have been me back in the waaaaay back of yesteryear, when I jumped into Usenet with both feet, thinking I knew all that and more and was just going to set all those Usenet alt.jehovahwitn "aposto-dubs and dumbers" straight... and got myself body slammed!
My posts are still out there, of course (Google never forgets). I was ill-prepared, to say the least, although my heart was in the right place. The Watchtower organization doesn't prepare its members for the tough stuff... just the typical conversation stoppers reported into the organization from the door-to-door ministry. And it's probably right to discourage any of Jehovah's Witnesses from opposer sites, groups, and Reddit subforums, because the typical Witness will be chewed up and spit out.
The Truth can be defended... but that wasn't the problem: it was all the
other stuff that was attached at the hip with the Truth. Organizational
Midrash, misappropriation of authority and abuse of justice... among other things.
In due course, I did tire of the bottomless cesspool of spite and disdain because it never
went anywhere. It was just the same old rehashing of complaints and grievances, day after day, and I began to realize that while the accusations
were true, the posters were so fixated and stumbled at this that they couldn't (or wouldn't) move past it. They were as stuck in their vitriol as Witnesses are in their "right or wrong, you go along until Jehovah straightens it out," and this wasn't where I wanted to be.
Hourglass2 turned up on my radar then, and at first it seemed like I'd found a place where serious discussions could take place, and
constructive answers could be sorted out. Maybe I had arrived late to the party there, though, because now that I was sensitive to the attitude and inclination of people in the Usenet group, I saw the same on H2O. As I mentioned in my "introductory" post elsewhere on this forum, I approached Robert by private message to get some matters sorted out in my mind without the exchange getting drowned out by the H2O regulars who had become opposers and naysayers.
After H2O closed its doors, I started Pathways-Online because I felt there had to be an online place that people like me could come to and talk about the matters that were having an impact on one's faith and hope when all one wants to do is draw closer to Jehovah God. Since there wasn't one, I set up Pathways-Online. The forum was available for quite a few years, but eventually the regulars outgrew it and moved on; I archived the forum and moved on as well.
Some years later, Robert set up "Paradise Cafe" for people, but the forum was eventually handed off to the people who wanted it to be theirs, and that forum was around for a little while before being shut down by its new handlers/owners.
Fast-forward and here we are on this forum.
I'm still convicted in belief that it's essential to have a way for others such as me and others who awaken to issues and problems among Jehovah's Witnesses to then have a "soft landing" so that there is time to sort out matters for one's self and, ideally, get the experiences and perspectives of those who formerly stood where such ones find themselves, to encourage them and edify them so that such ones don't end up throwing out the baby with the bathwater, as the expression goes.
The apostle Paul, in his letter to the believers at Phillipi, puts it this way:
Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy—dwell on these things. -- Philippians 4:8
Christian Standard Bible
Submitted for perusal and consideration,
Timothy,
a believer.