but for many years appealed to them through the prophets to return to Him and be healed.
When you actually contrast what Jehovah has allowed his people to endure and what WT tries to stop people from enduring. Like I have pointed out, Jehovah did stop Satan from telling "his apostate driven lies" to Eve. He allowed the lie to be told, and how they reacted to the lie was the test. What WT does is the opposite. Jehovah allows us free will, WT does everything it can to remove our freewill. Just the fact that we can fellowship with our non-JW family, but if someone was baptized when they were 10-12 years old, and then decided later they do not want to be one of JW's, that somehow justifies shunning. There is no balance in the way WT handles DF'ing.
I also believe it is meant as a loyalty test. Loyalty to WT, not to Jehovah. The fact that they can get people to treat their own family this way, speaks volumes. It's another form of mind control, and it's something that effects a person ability to reason properly. My brother had accused me of something for years, which never made any sense to me because we both had the same information, and it was like he had made up his mind and facts didn't matter. For years I never corrected him because I couldn't figure out what he was talking about. Then finally I realized he believed something complete devoid of the facts, I explained the truth of the situation, and he acted like he was hearing it for the first time but he probably still believes his version of reality.
On another occasion a friend of mine had a retaliative die while DF'ed and I mentioned it to this one elder, and he said the person was not going to be resurrected because they were df'd at the time of their death.
Another time a family friend has two DF'd Kids, and one was in the hospital, and the daughter was trying to get a hold of her Mom, who was out of town staying with an Elder and his wife, and they would let the daughter talk to her Mom. The daughter called me, and I had to call the Mom.
You cannot ever convince me that this is a "loving provision." It's just one more thing imperfect and judgemental men in positions of power can abuse!