Ms_ladyblue
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At first I was reluctant about posting this, but so many of you have shared the best and worst of your experiences so I feel I can rant or tearfully post about what I’ve experienced this last week.
As I’ve said before, my daughter and her husband have been shunning me because I questioned the WT about their handling of the vaccines. They had already backed away from speaking to me because of communicating with my younger son who’s DF.
I was told by my son in law that they would only do so if it was an emergency. But I’m not even DF either.
Well, that proved to be a lie because of what’s happened to me this past week. For years I’ve had problems with my neck shoulders and sciatica but not to such an extreme as now. A sister took me to my chiropractor because I couldn’t even drive. My chiropractor would only do a minor adjustment with my neck because I was so extremely sensitive there. Then he worked on my sciatic which gave me a little relief. On a scale of 1-10 my pain was a 10. He said I had torticollis, That is spasms in every muscle in my neck. The pain is so intense I would be crying like a baby!
I’m in so much pain trying to do just about anything…even trying to eat! So I thought I’d call my daughter to let her know that I needed her to help me out with getting some things done around the house and help me get around. I got no response and when checking my phone, I noticed a message saying that she had her notifications silenced. Even after I specifically let her know what I’ve been going through. Well, so much for helping out in an emergency.
You see I’m not usually one who wants to depend on others, even family, unless I’m in real need. When my husband was alive we could usually depend on each other for help in situations such as this. Now, I feel so helpless because of the painful effort it takes just to walk across the room.
Last night I thought I’d call my SIL’s grandmother, she‘s the one who raised him and his siblings. She’s also a forth generation JW.
I kind of figured I could talk to her because she has a more balanced and realistic view on matters like this. Btw she never got the vaccine and she’s 83 years old. She also hasn’t been sick throughout this so called pandemic and knows that the masks don’t work. But my SIL, her grandson keeps on trying to force her to take it! Unbelievable, these people!
Anyway, I proceeded to let her know what’s been going on, even about the GB and me speaking to my DF son. Btw, I really believe I can trust her not to go report this to the elders. But at this point I really don’t care.
She said that despite all of that I was still her mother and a widow now and didn’t deserve to be neglected like this. When I talked to her a little later she let me know that she sent this message, letting her grandson know this and it was their responsibility to be looking out after me.
Some of the friends have called and brought me something over to eat and for that I am thankful. A couple of them will call in to check on me too.
But every time I move, especially getting up to walk the pain is so excruciating….all I can do is cry out to Jehovah!
I also can’t help but think about the daughter I had, I feel I no longer know her anymore. She was one of the most thoughtful and considerate people you could meet. Friends use to always tell me how they appreciated her because of that. I hate to say it but I really never thought she’d be so insensitive like this. I pray to Jehovah that she will wake up from this illusion soon.
Meanwhile, I think if nothing else, all of this I’m going through will make me stronger. But if my daughter were to call or come to see me now I would welcome her with open arms! I still love her with all my heart and always will.
I would never treat anyone who was going through this with such coldness. That also goes for anyone having to experience the effects of shunning for whatever reasons they might be. And the WT says this is showing LOVE!
No, they don’t show the genuine Godly love Jesus taught and because of that many suffer one way or another.
As I’ve said before, my daughter and her husband have been shunning me because I questioned the WT about their handling of the vaccines. They had already backed away from speaking to me because of communicating with my younger son who’s DF.
I was told by my son in law that they would only do so if it was an emergency. But I’m not even DF either.
Well, that proved to be a lie because of what’s happened to me this past week. For years I’ve had problems with my neck shoulders and sciatica but not to such an extreme as now. A sister took me to my chiropractor because I couldn’t even drive. My chiropractor would only do a minor adjustment with my neck because I was so extremely sensitive there. Then he worked on my sciatic which gave me a little relief. On a scale of 1-10 my pain was a 10. He said I had torticollis, That is spasms in every muscle in my neck. The pain is so intense I would be crying like a baby!
I’m in so much pain trying to do just about anything…even trying to eat! So I thought I’d call my daughter to let her know that I needed her to help me out with getting some things done around the house and help me get around. I got no response and when checking my phone, I noticed a message saying that she had her notifications silenced. Even after I specifically let her know what I’ve been going through. Well, so much for helping out in an emergency.
You see I’m not usually one who wants to depend on others, even family, unless I’m in real need. When my husband was alive we could usually depend on each other for help in situations such as this. Now, I feel so helpless because of the painful effort it takes just to walk across the room.
Last night I thought I’d call my SIL’s grandmother, she‘s the one who raised him and his siblings. She’s also a forth generation JW.
I kind of figured I could talk to her because she has a more balanced and realistic view on matters like this. Btw she never got the vaccine and she’s 83 years old. She also hasn’t been sick throughout this so called pandemic and knows that the masks don’t work. But my SIL, her grandson keeps on trying to force her to take it! Unbelievable, these people!
Anyway, I proceeded to let her know what’s been going on, even about the GB and me speaking to my DF son. Btw, I really believe I can trust her not to go report this to the elders. But at this point I really don’t care.
She said that despite all of that I was still her mother and a widow now and didn’t deserve to be neglected like this. When I talked to her a little later she let me know that she sent this message, letting her grandson know this and it was their responsibility to be looking out after me.
Some of the friends have called and brought me something over to eat and for that I am thankful. A couple of them will call in to check on me too.
But every time I move, especially getting up to walk the pain is so excruciating….all I can do is cry out to Jehovah!
I also can’t help but think about the daughter I had, I feel I no longer know her anymore. She was one of the most thoughtful and considerate people you could meet. Friends use to always tell me how they appreciated her because of that. I hate to say it but I really never thought she’d be so insensitive like this. I pray to Jehovah that she will wake up from this illusion soon.
Meanwhile, I think if nothing else, all of this I’m going through will make me stronger. But if my daughter were to call or come to see me now I would welcome her with open arms! I still love her with all my heart and always will.
I would never treat anyone who was going through this with such coldness. That also goes for anyone having to experience the effects of shunning for whatever reasons they might be. And the WT says this is showing LOVE!
No, they don’t show the genuine Godly love Jesus taught and because of that many suffer one way or another.
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