She's more apostate than I am. LOL. I'm the one hanging on to the baby as the bathwater is being thrown out. She's extremely bitter over what WT has done. She does believe the basic truths, but we have a lot of friends including a neighbor who are big into this local church here, and I have to agree with her on this point, they do seem to display Christian love in a lot more of a convincing fashion than JW's. So that has been the struggle. I have to keep telling her, "they believe in the trinity, hell fire, immortal soul," etc and she keeps acting like I'm just saying these things and I don't really know. Then I'm like, "look it up if you don't believe me", then i get "I don't have time" , then I'm like, "if you won't look it up, how can you say 'I don't know if that's true?'" Basically, I'm just trying to manage this train wreck the best way I can, and I have two young kids to boot. But it many many ways, I'm glad to be out of WT. I had gotten too used to keeping the "brothers" at arms length", because I don't trust most of them because they are such busy bodies going off half cocked, and self righteousness.
I was married once before, and after we split up I was having a really tough time. Any way I was shooting pool and I got into a minor argument with a guy I knew and he was getting really aggressive, and I was trying not to get into a fight with the guy, he was an inch from my face trying to provoke me, and I calmly and gently pushed the guy back with one finger in an attempt to deescalate things, and he attacked me, shoved me through a window, and cut my arm really bad, and I had to get stitches. To make a long story short, turns out there was a sister I didn't know, who worked at the hospital, and tried ratting me out to the elders, so one of the elders takes in on himself to "investigate me". The biggest irony to that, was I had seen his 12 year old son at a guys house who lived up the road from me, smoking pot with another brothers son. I did what we are supposed to do, which was told those kids they needed to come clean and tell their parents what they had done. The little brats tried to throw me under the bus, denied they had smoked pot and claimed I offered them beer. (I had offered to let the older boy taste my beer, he was 14 since I was drinking a Guinness, nothing more, and he knew it.) I was forced to face the little liars in front of their whole families, both families, both parents and both boys had sisters and I'm not joking they tried to ambush me, which didn't work out to well for them, I said in a loud voice, "so you weren't smoking pot?" I paused and said it again, even more forcefully, and the two of them bowed there heads and shook their heads yes. I said, "that's what I thought." And I turned around and walked out. The slime ball elder, followed me outside, and asked me about getting hurt and the stitches etc, and wanted to know why I hadn't told the elders about it. I told him, "cause I didn't do anything wrong." He then proceeded to tell me, he talked to the owner, blah blah ..he told me himself what he'd done. After a few seconds of me maintaining I hadn't done anything wrong, I finally said to him, "Look, when I do something wrong you won't have to hear about it from someone else." And I got I my car and drove off. I guarantee you both his kids left the truth. (LOL, I wasn't planning on writing all that, it just kinda happened! This all happened the same weekend we found out my brother had killed himself.) While I'm on this subject, I might as well say this., My ex cheated on me...I knew she was but she refused to admit it. I finally kicked her out without knowing if I'd ever be free scripturally to re-marry. She was such a liar it was remarkable. Any way, that's another story. But after we split up, and I think she had admitted it at the time the following happened...this one sister asked me, "where's your wife?" Not that it was any of her business, but I knew she was going to find out so what's the point in not answering, so I just said, "we split up." This "sister' says to me, "Shame on you." Mind you she knew NOTHING about us, nothing about what was going on...didn't know she'd been DF'd and turned over on appeal over something else, but shouldn't have because she was cheating on me then, but I didn't know it at the time.
And I could go on, and on and on...any way...some things I definitely do not miss...LOL!
an elders wife who accused me of apostasy when I first met her a couple of years ago when the cart work started back up again. She told me to stop talking to her and to go away from her, just because I said I was very confused about the GB suddenly doing a 180 on their usual stance on medical stuff and copying the worldly authorities. I thought it was a reasonable point, but she did not! She moved into my congregation during lockdown. The elders must've given her my address and asked her to "check up" on me and report back to them!! Anyway, I shall be sending some of Robert's articles to the anxious sister who visited me to help her see that Jehovah is going to hold the Watchtower accountable for what they've done to his sheep. I'm so grateful for this forum, I really am