Watchtower Study for August 3 - August 9, 2026

[a believer]

In the two previous weeks, I summarized the Watchtower Study, primarily sticking with reporting what each paragraph said.

This week's study is so odd that I am instead going to post the Study article verbatim for the forum to discuss as they see fit. I will note only one thing here: there is no mention of when there is a disagreement over an organizational policy or a scriptural understanding; the examples given are for everyday occasions that may arise.

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[Source]

Respect the Decisions of Others

“Do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—ROM. 14:1.

FOCUS
How to show respect for fellow believers when they make decisions that we do not agree with.

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1-2. Why do our personal decisions sometimes differ from those of other Christians?

HAVE you ever felt unfairly judged because of a decision you made? Have you ever judged a fellow Christian on the basis of a decision he a made? No doubt most of us could answer yes to both questions.

2 We should not be surprised that at times our decisions differ from those of other faithful Christians. Why? Because we are unique. Each of us has his or her own viewpoint. Our thinking is influenced by our culture, family background, and personal experiences. But we should not allow our differing opinions to threaten the peace and unity of the congregation.—Eph. 4:3.

3. What might cause us to judge a fellow Christian for a decision he has made?

3 When a fellow Christian makes a decision that we disagree with, we might feel the need to convince him to change his mind or we might voice our concerns to others. Likely, we have good motives. We love our brothers and sisters, and we want what is best for them. (Prov. 17:17) So we do not want to see them make a decision that they will later regret or that could damage them spiritually.

4-5. What should we do if a fellow Christian decides to do something that differs from what we would have done?

4 Should we discuss our concerns with our brother if we disagree with his decision? That depends on a number of factors. For example, if we learn that he is thinking about doing something that violates a Bible command, then out of love for him, we should try to help him to correct his thinking. (Prov. 27:5, 6) Yet, what should we do if a brother decides to do something that does not break one of God’s laws but simply differs from what we would have done? We find the answer in our theme scripture. We “do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—Rom. 14:1.

5 Still, we may find it hard to respect his decision. In this article, we will discuss why we should respect the decisions of others and how we can do so. But first, let us consider some situations involving personal decisions that could lead us to pass judgment on our brothers and sisters.

WHAT PERSONAL DECISIONS COULD CAUSE US TO JUDGE OTHERS?

6-7. Describe scenarios in which we might judge others for their decisions.

6 As mentioned earlier, we might have strong opinions about certain topics because of our background or experiences. We might assume that others share our viewpoint. Yet, that may not be the case. Consider a few scenarios. Scenario 1: Before learning the truth, a brother grew up with a father who abused alcohol. At a gathering, the brother sees other Christians drinking alcohol. He is disappointed and tells them that what they are doing is wrong. Scenario 2: A sister has successfully battled a serious disease. Later, she learns that another sister has been diagnosed with the same illness. The first sister wants to help, so she pressures her friend to follow the same medical treatment she did—whether by means of a certain diet or through the use of conventional medicine or natural remedies. Scenario 3: A brother used to be a member of a false religion. He hates his former life course. When he learns that a fellow Christian attended a funeral in a church, he is offended.

7 Consider a few additional scenarios. Scenario 4: A brother grew up during a time when most people felt that it was inappropriate for men to grow beards or for women to wear dress slacks to formal events. While the brother is aware of the recent adjustment in our view of this subject, he insistently tells others that Christian men should not wear beards and that Christian women should wear dresses while engaged in theocratic activities. Scenario 5: An elder knew a brother who pursued additional education and later left the truth. Now a young brother in the elder’s congregation has decided to seek additional education. The elder is concerned and tries to convince the young brother and his parents to change their mind.

8. (a) What could cause a parent to become judgmental of other parents? (b) How might our having a critical attitude toward others affect the congregation?

8 Consider a situation that could affect parents. Scenario 6: As a parent, you work hard to raise your children “in the discipline and admonition of Jehovah.” (Eph. 6:4) But other Christian parents seem to be more permissive than you are. For example, they allow their children to have a later curfew, to play nonviolent video games, or to have a cell phone at an early age. As a result, your child feels that you are being overly strict. “Why can’t you be more like my friend’s parents?” he asks. Such a situation could cause you to become critical of the other parents. The truth is that any Christian’s personal decision that differs from ours could cause disagreements. For example, we might question how he spends his money, how often he goes on vacation, or what entertainment he chooses. But we must not allow our feelings to become more important to us than the unity of the congregation.

9. What should we remember?

9 While the decisions of one Christian may differ from those of another, this does not necessarily mean that one is right and the other is wrong. (Rom. 14:5) Just because Christians are instructed “to think in agreement” when it comes to Jehovah’s standards, this does not mean that we have to think alike in all personal matters. (2 Cor. 13:11) We could compare our personal decisions to the choices we make when we travel to a certain location. Often, there are several different routes that lead to the same destination. We choose the one that suits our preferences and limitations. In a similar way, Christians may make different choices in personal matters, but our destination is the same: We seek to please Jehovah. So we do not judge others for the personal decisions they make.—Matt. 7:1; 1 Thess. 4:11.

** Question 9 instructs the brothers and sisters to look at the image included, which also has the following caption: "Travelers may choose from several routes to reach a destination; likewise, Christians may make different decisions in personal matters when serving Jehovah (See paragraph 9)"

WHY RESPECT THE PERSONAL DECISIONS OF OTHERS?

10. According to James 4:12, what do we not have the authority to do, and why?

10 The Bible provides several reasons why we should respect the personal decisions of others. Consider a few of them. We do not have the authority to judge others in personal matters. (Read James 4:12.) Jehovah is the righteous Lawgiver and Judge. Only he has the right to set standards and rules for life. So our brothers and sisters are accountable to Jehovah, not to us. (Rom. 14:10) We do not have the right to judge or criticize the decisions of others based on our own standards or opinions. c

11. How can we contribute to the unity of the congregation? (See also picture.)

11 Jehovah requires unity among his worshippers, not uniformity. In fact, our God loves variety! We see evidence of this in creation. For example, no two snowflakes are the same. And just think about humans. Of the over eight billion people on earth, no two people are exactly alike in appearance or personality. Jehovah created us to be different. He does not want us to be clones of one another. But he does want us to be united. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We place greater value on the unity of the congregation than on our opinions and preferences.—Rom. 14:19.

** Question 11 has the instruction "see also picture" which has the caption: "Jehovah created us to be different from one another, but he wants us to be united (See paragraph 11)"

HOW TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS OF OTHERS

12-13. What should we keep in mind if we feel that someone has taken “a false step”? (Galatians 6:1; see also the box “ When You Disagree.”)

12 When others make decisions in personal matters. Ask yourself, ‘Is the person taking “a false step” or simply a different step?’ If he is taking a false step, one that violates a Bible command, ask yourself, ‘Do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to readjust him, or is someone else in a better position to do so?’ If you are qualified to help, try to reason with him in a spirit of mildness. (Read Galatians 6:1.) However, you may often find that his choice is simply a different step—one that does not align with your viewpoint. If that is the case, do not question him or speak negatively about his decision. Respect his right to decide for himself, and do not judge him.—Rom. 14:2-4.

13 Think of this comparison: If you went to a restaurant with a friend, would you insist that he order the same food that you ordered? No. You would respect his right to select his own meal. After all, what he chooses to eat has little impact on you. And if the roles were reversed, you likely would not want your friend to order your meal based on his preferences. Similarly, we can show respect for others by allowing them to make personal decisions without trying to impose our opinions on them.

When You Disagree​ If you disagree with the decision of a fellow Christian, try asking yourself the questions below. You may find that this exercise will spare you unneeded worry.—Gal. 6:5. Does his decision violate a Bible command? How might his background have a bearing on his decision? Will his decision really harm him, or am I just imagining the worst-case scenario? What good results might come from his decision? Is he taking “a false step” or simply a different step than I would take? If he is taking a false step, do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to help him adjust his thinking?

14. How can you promote unity when making personal decisions? (1 Corinthians 8:12, 13)

14 When you make decisions in personal matters. You can promote unity by doing your best to avoid offending others. (Read 1 Corinthians 8:12, 13.) At times, you may know that a decision you are about to make is “lawful,” that is, acceptable. But if it will offend your brother, will it be “advantageous”? d (1 Cor. 10:23, 24) In such cases, rather than insist on your rights, consider putting your preferences aside. (Rom. 15:1) But didn’t we just establish that others should respect our decisions in personal matters? Yes. They should respect our choices just as we should respect theirs. But we should also keep in mind the Bible’s counsel found at Romans 12:18, which says: “As far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men.” Therefore, we do all that we reasonably can to maintain peace with others and avoid needlessly offending them.

15. How can elders contribute to the unity of the congregation? (1 Corinthians 4:6)

15 Elders show respect for the decisions of others. Elders contribute to the unity of the congregation by not making rules on personal matters and by not going “beyond the things that are written” in the Bible. (Read 1 Corinthians 4:6.) And by extension, they do not go beyond the Bible-based counsel that is written in our publications. Additionally, when a fellow Christian asks for help, elders are careful not to rely solely on their own experience when giving advice. Instead, they base their counsel on God’s Word.—Isa. 48:17, 18.

16. How can an elder show respect for the decisions made by the body of elders?

16 An elder also shows respect for the collective decisions made by the body of elders. Once the body of elders has prayed for holy spirit, reviewed and applied Scriptural direction, and come to a decision, each elder should support that decision even when his personal opinion is not adopted by the majority. (Eph. 5:17) In addition, elders are careful not to read more into theocratic direction than is really there. For example, an elder would not take a sentence in one of our publications out of context in an effort to support his own personal viewpoint.

17. How do we benefit when we respect the decisions of others?

17 As we have learned, we are unique. Each of us has his own opinions and preferences. But such variety is a good thing! Our different backgrounds and personalities make the congregation an inviting place to be. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We are careful not to offend others. We respect the decisions of others in personal matters. When we do so, our effort will be rewarded. We will enjoy a happy, united congregation.—Ps. 133:1; Matt. 5:9.

HOW CAN THE FOLLOWING SCRIPTURES HELP US TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS AND DECISIONS OF OTHERS? James 4:12 Galatians 6:1 1 Corinthians 4:6; 8:12, 13

Footnotes:

a This information also applies to sisters.

b A number of factors should have a bearing on a Christian’s decision regarding whether to attend a funeral or a wedding in a church. See the article “Questions From Readers” in the May 15, 2002, issue of The Watchtower.

c At times, elders need to judge those who violate Bible commands. However, elders keep in mind that they are judging for Jehovah based on his righteous standards, not their own.—Compare 2 Chronicles 19:6.

d For examples, see the Enjoy Life Forever! book, lesson 35 point 5.

 

[PJ54]

Seems like a combination of damage control & dealing w/ divisions popping up. No doubt there's more to it.

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

In the two previous weeks, I summarized the Watchtower Study, primarily sticking with reporting what each paragraph said.

This week's study is so odd that I am instead going to post the Study article verbatim for the forum to discuss as they see fit. I will note only one thing here: there is no mention of when there is a disagreement over an organizational policy or a scriptural understanding; the examples given are for everyday occasions that may arise.

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[Source]

Respect the Decisions of Others

“Do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—ROM. 14:1.

FOCUS
How to show respect for fellow believers when they make decisions that we do not agree with.

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HAVE you ever felt unfairly judged because of a decision you made? Have you ever judged a fellow Christian on the basis of a decision he a made? No doubt most of us could answer yes to both questions.

2 We should not be surprised that at times our decisions differ from those of other faithful Christians. Why? Because we are unique. Each of us has his or her own viewpoint. Our thinking is influenced by our culture, family background, and personal experiences. But we should not allow our differing opinions to threaten the peace and unity of the congregation.—Eph. 4:3.



3 When a fellow Christian makes a decision that we disagree with, we might feel the need to convince him to change his mind or we might voice our concerns to others. Likely, we have good motives. We love our brothers and sisters, and we want what is best for them. (Prov. 17:17) So we do not want to see them make a decision that they will later regret or that could damage them spiritually.



4 Should we discuss our concerns with our brother if we disagree with his decision? That depends on a number of factors. For example, if we learn that he is thinking about doing something that violates a Bible command, then out of love for him, we should try to help him to correct his thinking. (Prov. 27:5, 6) Yet, what should we do if a brother decides to do something that does not break one of God’s laws but simply differs from what we would have done? We find the answer in our theme scripture. We “do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—Rom. 14:1.

5 Still, we may find it hard to respect his decision. In this article, we will discuss why we should respect the decisions of others and how we can do so. But first, let us consider some situations involving personal decisions that could lead us to pass judgment on our brothers and sisters.

WHAT PERSONAL DECISIONS COULD CAUSE US TO JUDGE OTHERS?



6 As mentioned earlier, we might have strong opinions about certain topics because of our background or experiences. We might assume that others share our viewpoint. Yet, that may not be the case. Consider a few scenarios. Scenario 1: Before learning the truth, a brother grew up with a father who abused alcohol. At a gathering, the brother sees other Christians drinking alcohol. He is disappointed and tells them that what they are doing is wrong. Scenario 2: A sister has successfully battled a serious disease. Later, she learns that another sister has been diagnosed with the same illness. The first sister wants to help, so she pressures her friend to follow the same medical treatment she did—whether by means of a certain diet or through the use of conventional medicine or natural remedies. Scenario 3: A brother used to be a member of a false religion. He hates his former life course. When he learns that a fellow Christian attended a funeral in a church, he is offended.

7 Consider a few additional scenarios. Scenario 4: A brother grew up during a time when most people felt that it was inappropriate for men to grow beards or for women to wear dress slacks to formal events. While the brother is aware of the recent adjustment in our view of this subject, he insistently tells others that Christian men should not wear beards and that Christian women should wear dresses while engaged in theocratic activities. Scenario 5: An elder knew a brother who pursued additional education and later left the truth. Now a young brother in the elder’s congregation has decided to seek additional education. The elder is concerned and tries to convince the young brother and his parents to change their mind.



8 Consider a situation that could affect parents. Scenario 6: As a parent, you work hard to raise your children “in the discipline and admonition of Jehovah.” (Eph. 6:4) But other Christian parents seem to be more permissive than you are. For example, they allow their children to have a later curfew, to play nonviolent video games, or to have a cell phone at an early age. As a result, your child feels that you are being overly strict. “Why can’t you be more like my friend’s parents?” he asks. Such a situation could cause you to become critical of the other parents. The truth is that any Christian’s personal decision that differs from ours could cause disagreements. For example, we might question how he spends his money, how often he goes on vacation, or what entertainment he chooses. But we must not allow our feelings to become more important to us than the unity of the congregation.



9 While the decisions of one Christian may differ from those of another, this does not necessarily mean that one is right and the other is wrong. (Rom. 14:5) Just because Christians are instructed “to think in agreement” when it comes to Jehovah’s standards, this does not mean that we have to think alike in all personal matters. (2 Cor. 13:11) We could compare our personal decisions to the choices we make when we travel to a certain location. Often, there are several different routes that lead to the same destination. We choose the one that suits our preferences and limitations. In a similar way, Christians may make different choices in personal matters, but our destination is the same: We seek to please Jehovah. So we do not judge others for the personal decisions they make.—Matt. 7:1; 1 Thess. 4:11.

** Question 9 instructs the brothers and sisters to look at the image included, which also has the following caption: "Travelers may choose from several routes to reach a destination; likewise, Christians may make different decisions in personal matters when serving Jehovah (See paragraph 9)"

WHY RESPECT THE PERSONAL DECISIONS OF OTHERS?



10 The Bible provides several reasons why we should respect the personal decisions of others. Consider a few of them. We do not have the authority to judge others in personal matters. (Read James 4:12.) Jehovah is the righteous Lawgiver and Judge. Only he has the right to set standards and rules for life. So our brothers and sisters are accountable to Jehovah, not to us. (Rom. 14:10) We do not have the right to judge or criticize the decisions of others based on our own standards or opinions. c



11 Jehovah requires unity among his worshippers, not uniformity. In fact, our God loves variety! We see evidence of this in creation. For example, no two snowflakes are the same. And just think about humans. Of the over eight billion people on earth, no two people are exactly alike in appearance or personality. Jehovah created us to be different. He does not want us to be clones of one another. But he does want us to be united. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We place greater value on the unity of the congregation than on our opinions and preferences.—Rom. 14:19.

** Question 11 has the instruction "see also picture" which has the caption: "Jehovah created us to be different from one another, but he wants us to be united (See paragraph 11)"

HOW TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS OF OTHERS



12 When others make decisions in personal matters. Ask yourself, ‘Is the person taking “a false step” or simply a different step?’ If he is taking a false step, one that violates a Bible command, ask yourself, ‘Do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to readjust him, or is someone else in a better position to do so?’ If you are qualified to help, try to reason with him in a spirit of mildness. (Read Galatians 6:1.) However, you may often find that his choice is simply a different step—one that does not align with your viewpoint. If that is the case, do not question him or speak negatively about his decision. Respect his right to decide for himself, and do not judge him.—Rom. 14:2-4.

13 Think of this comparison: If you went to a restaurant with a friend, would you insist that he order the same food that you ordered? No. You would respect his right to select his own meal. After all, what he chooses to eat has little impact on you. And if the roles were reversed, you likely would not want your friend to order your meal based on his preferences. Similarly, we can show respect for others by allowing them to make personal decisions without trying to impose our opinions on them.

When You Disagree​ If you disagree with the decision of a fellow Christian, try asking yourself the questions below. You may find that this exercise will spare you unneeded worry.—Gal. 6:5. Does his decision violate a Bible command? How might his background have a bearing on his decision? Will his decision really harm him, or am I just imagining the worst-case scenario? What good results might come from his decision? Is he taking “a false step” or simply a different step than I would take? If he is taking a false step, do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to help him adjust his thinking?

14 When you make decisions in personal matters. You can promote unity by doing your best to avoid offending others. (Read 1 Corinthians 8:12, 13.) At times, you may know that a decision you are about to make is “lawful,” that is, acceptable. But if it will offend your brother, will it be “advantageous”? d (1 Cor. 10:23, 24) In such cases, rather than insist on your rights, consider putting your preferences aside. (Rom. 15:1) But didn’t we just establish that others should respect our decisions in personal matters? Yes. They should respect our choices just as we should respect theirs. But we should also keep in mind the Bible’s counsel found at Romans 12:18, which says: “As far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men.” Therefore, we do all that we reasonably can to maintain peace with others and avoid needlessly offending them.



15 Elders show respect for the decisions of others. Elders contribute to the unity of the congregation by not making rules on personal matters and by not going “beyond the things that are written” in the Bible. (Read 1 Corinthians 4:6.) And by extension, they do not go beyond the Bible-based counsel that is written in our publications. Additionally, when a fellow Christian asks for help, elders are careful not to rely solely on their own experience when giving advice. Instead, they base their counsel on God’s Word.—Isa. 48:17, 18.



16 An elder also shows respect for the collective decisions made by the body of elders. Once the body of elders has prayed for holy spirit, reviewed and applied Scriptural direction, and come to a decision, each elder should support that decision even when his personal opinion is not adopted by the majority. (Eph. 5:17) In addition, elders are careful not to read more into theocratic direction than is really there. For example, an elder would not take a sentence in one of our publications out of context in an effort to support his own personal viewpoint.



17 As we have learned, we are unique. Each of us has his own opinions and preferences. But such variety is a good thing! Our different backgrounds and personalities make the congregation an inviting place to be. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We are careful not to offend others. We respect the decisions of others in personal matters. When we do so, our effort will be rewarded. We will enjoy a happy, united congregation.—Ps. 133:1; Matt. 5:9.

HOW CAN THE FOLLOWING SCRIPTURES HELP US TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS AND DECISIONS OF OTHERS? James 4:12 Galatians 6:1 1 Corinthians 4:6; 8:12, 13

Footnotes:

a This information also applies to sisters.

b A number of factors should have a bearing on a Christian’s decision regarding whether to attend a funeral or a wedding in a church. See the article “Questions From Readers” in the May 15, 2002, issue of The Watchtower.

c At times, elders need to judge those who violate Bible commands. However, elders keep in mind that they are judging for Jehovah based on his righteous standards, not their own.—Compare 2 Chronicles 19:6.

d For examples, see the Enjoy Life Forever! book, lesson 35 point 5.

Timothy, with all due respect, I would rather read a topic of your own understanding upon the Bible that read a copy of watchtower rot. It just makes one despair of them to read it. Your well qualified to write an interesting critique on any of the scriptures to hand and at present I’m wandering in a desert of war, the evils of this world and arguments about how we are going to die. Manna will be dropping from heaven if we are to starve and the stones in my garden are restless and on the move.

 

[a believer]

Timothy, with all due respect, I would rather read a topic of your own understanding upon the Bible that read a copy of watchtower rot. It just makes one despair of them to read it. Your well qualified to write an interesting critique on any of the scriptures to hand and at present I’m wandering in a desert of war, the evils of this world and arguments about how we are going to die. Manna will be dropping from heaven if we are to starve and the stones in my garden are restless and on the move.

Oh, I dunno, Barn-dog... the Society very much frowns on "independent" thinking.

—Timothy

 

[SusanB]

From “The Message” bible translation 2 Corinthians 11:16-23: “Let me come back to where I started—and don’t hold it against me if I continue to sound a little foolish. Or if you’d rather, just accept that I am a fool and let me rant on a little. I didn’t learn this kind of talk from Christ. Oh, no, it’s a bad habit I picked up from the three-ring preachers that are so popular these days. Since you sit there in the judgment seat observing all these shenanigans, you can afford to humor an occasional fool who happens along. You have such admirable tolerance for impostors who rob your freedom, rip you off, steal you blind, put you down—even slap your face! I shouldn’t admit it to you, but our stomachs aren’t strong enough to tolerate that kind of stuff. Since you admire the egomaniacs of the pulpit so much (remember, this is your old friend, the fool, talking), let me try my hand at it. Do they brag of being Hebrews, Israelites, the pure race of Abraham? I’m their match. Are they servants of Christ? I can go them one better. (I can’t believe I’m saying these things. It’s crazy to talk this way! But I started, and I’m going to finish.)”

 

[SusanB]

From “The Message” bible translation 2 Corinthians 11:16-23: “Let me come back to where I started—and don’t hold it against me if I continue to sound a little foolish. Or if you’d rather, just accept that I am a fool and let me rant on a little. I didn’t learn this kind of talk from Christ. Oh, no, it’s a bad habit I picked up from the three-ring preachers that are so popular these days. Since you sit there in the judgment seat observing all these shenanigans, you can afford to humor an occasional fool who happens along. You have such admirable tolerance for impostors who rob your freedom, rip you off, steal you blind, put you down—even slap your face! I shouldn’t admit it to you, but our stomachs aren’t strong enough to tolerate that kind of stuff. Since you admire the egomaniacs of the pulpit so much (remember, this is your old friend, the fool, talking), let me try my hand at it. Do they brag of being Hebrews, Israelites, the pure race of Abraham? I’m their match. Are they servants of Christ? I can go them one better. (I can’t believe I’m saying these things. It’s crazy to talk this way! But I started, and I’m going to finish.)”

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I may have been a bit vague, but to me this study seems to be a slap in the face for the brothers and sister following the lead of the GB, who have done all the things they say to not do. Talk about three-ring preachers!!!!

 

[SusanB]

The 3 ring circus being operated by the GB is one ring for the Governing Body, who have placed themselves in the position of being the mouth of God, and the 2nd ring is the Elders and “teachers”, who get clued in on the “secrets” of the ORG and have first look at the directions coming directly from the mouth of “God” and then you have the 3rd ring of the deplorables or am ha-aretz, who just cannot understand the scriptures or really anything about life and must be led around by a ring in their nose like a beast of burden.

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

Oh, I dunno, Barn-dog... the Society very much frowns on "independent" thinking.

—Timothy

Go on………be independent…l just a smidgin …..

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

I may have been a bit vague, but to me this study seems to be a slap in the face for the brothers and sister following the lead of the GB, who have done all the things they say to not do. Talk about three-ring preachers!!!!

I think you are absolutely right. When I read it I just felt they are really mocking the faith put in them. It can not go on like this. Someone must wake up and take them to task about it - but I suppose that’s just what Jehovah will do.

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

The 3 ring circus being operated by the GB is one ring for the Governing Body, who have placed themselves in the position of being the mouth of God, and the 2nd ring is the Elders and “teachers”, who get clued in on the “secrets” of the ORG and have first look at the directions coming directly from the mouth of “God” and then you have the 3rd ring of the deplorables or am ha-aretz, who just cannot understand the scriptures or really anything about life and must be led around by a ring in their nose like a beast of burden.

It was a burden when I was in. And it’s a burden now - ever more so.

 

[MickHewitt]

How to show respect for fellow believers when they make decisions that we do not agree with.

Is this a special needs talk in view of your silencing Bk?

 

[a believer]

Is this a special needs talk in view of your silencing Bk?

I wouldn't hazard to speak for the Watchtower organization on why they chose this particular subject for a Watchtower Study, but sometimes Robert and I wonder if someone from there isn't checking in on the forum. Who knows.

As for "silencing" Kevin, Kevin is free to contact and discuss the matter with Robert by email, is he not?— but it is my understanding that he posted that he was withdrawing from the forum until Robert returns, this after he got his accusatory posts in. If there is a compelling reason why he feels or believes he should be allowed to continue this behavior on the forum, that is now between him and Robert, wouldn't everyone agree?

Robert hasn't indicated that he's had any contact from Kevin, so that's the first course of action I'm still encouraging Kevin to take.

—Timothy

 

[a believer]

I wouldn't hazard to speak for the Watchtower organization on why they chose this particular subject for a Watchtower Study, but sometimes Robert and I wonder if someone from there isn't checking in on the forum. Who knows.

As for "silencing" Kevin, Kevin is free to contact and discuss the matter with Robert by email, is he not?— but it is my understanding that he posted that he was withdrawing from the forum until Robert returns, this after he got his accusatory posts in. If there is a compelling reason why he feels or believes he should be allowed to continue this behavior on the forum, that is now between him and Robert, wouldn't everyone agree?

Robert hasn't indicated that he's had any contact from Kevin, so that's the first course of action I'm still encouraging Kevin to take.

—Timothy

I want to add that it's been my decades-long experience as a forum admin that situations like this quickly turn into divison, with forum members taking sides in the dispute (Cf. 1 Corinthians 1:11-12; Acts 15:36–40).

Since Kevin's accusations are against the assigned forum administrator (me, in this case), it is proper for me to leave this matter with Robert. But I also have a responsibility as the forum admin in Robert's absence to stem disruptive behavior, while at the same time recommend that the offended party contact Robert by email— something that is practiced on every job I've ever held, when someone might be unhappy with something I did as supervisor, and they insist on taking up the matter with my manager.

That is what I've done here, as well. It's Kevin's responsibility to speak with my manager, but it is not my responsibility, as the forum admin at Robert's request, to allow his behavior to proceed as Kevin feels he has a right to do, until Kevin has clarified this with Robert in light of Kevin's accusations of my overstepping my station.

But reject foolish and ignorant speculation, for you know that it breeds quarreling. And a servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome, but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, and forbearing. He must gently reprove those who oppose him, in the hope that God may grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, who has taken them captive to his will. —2 Timothy 2:23-26 Berean Standard Version

—Timothy

 

[MickHewitt]

situations like this quickly turn into divison, with forum

Yes we must continue wisely: My letter of introduction to congregations here in my area insists we here at the Forum are a 'Happy Bunch'.

 

[MickHewitt]

I want to add that it's been my decades-long experience as a forum admin that situations like this quickly turn into divison, with forum members taking sides in the dispute (Cf. 1 Corinthians 1:11-12; Acts 15:36–40).

Since Kevin's accusations are against the assigned forum administrator (me, in this case), it is proper for me to leave this matter with Robert. But I also have a responsibility as the forum admin in Robert's absence to stem disruptive behavior, while at the same time recommend that the offended party contact Robert by email— something that is practiced on every job I've ever held, when someone might be unhappy with something I did as supervisor, and they insist on taking up the matter with my manager.

That is what I've done here, as well. It's Kevin's responsibility to speak with my manager, but it is not my responsibility, as the forum admin at Robert's request, to allow his behavior to proceed as Kevin feels he has a right to do, until Kevin has clarified this with Robert in light of Kevin's accusations of my overstepping my station.

But reject foolish and ignorant speculation, for you know that it breeds quarreling. And a servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome, but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, and forbearing. He must gently reprove those who oppose him, in the hope that God may grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, who has taken them captive to his will. —2 Timothy 2:23-26 Berean Standard Version

—Timothy

Thanks for replying Timothy: It is strange the coincidal theme of W/T. Even though the themes are written months earlier. 'For the weapons of our warfare are not fleshly' 1Cor10:4

 

[a believer]

Thanks for replying Timothy: It is strange the coincidal theme of W/T. Even though the themes are written months earlier. 'For the weapons of our warfare are not fleshly' 1Cor10:4

Sadly, our brothers and sisters in the congregations are being instructed on mere matters like slacks worn by sisters. Meanwhile, this forum— composed of earnest brothers and sisters like you and others— continues to demonstrate far more interest in meatier discussions... and as a result, disagreements will arise. It's what we do when those disagreements arise that is essential.

...for [doubtless] there have to be factions among you, so that those who are of approved character may be clearly recognized among you. —1 Corinthians 11:19 Amplified Bible

I urge you, my friends: watch out for those who cause divisions and upset people's faith and go against the teaching which you have received. Keep away from them! —Romans 16:17 Good News Translation

But avoid foolish controversies ... arguments, and quarrels about the law, because these things are pointless and worthless. Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition, knowing that such a man is corrupt and sinful; he is self-condemned. —Titus 3:9-11 Berean Standard Bible

What causes conflicts and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from the passions at war within you? —James 4:1 Berean Standard Bible

—Timothy,
a believer.

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

Sadly, our brothers and sisters in the congregations are being instructed on mere matters like slacks worn by sisters. Meanwhile, this forum— composed of earnest brothers and sisters like you and others— continues to demonstrate far more interest in meatier discussions... and as a result, disagreements will arise. It's what we do when those disagreements arise that is essential.

...for [doubtless] there have to be factions among you, so that those who are of approved character may be clearly recognized among you. —1 Corinthians 11:19 Amplified Bible

I urge you, my friends: watch out for those who cause divisions and upset people's faith and go against the teaching which you have received. Keep away from them! —Romans 16:17 Good News Translation

But avoid foolish controversies ... arguments, and quarrels about the law, because these things are pointless and worthless. Reject a divisive man after a first and second admonition, knowing that such a man is corrupt and sinful; he is self-condemned. —Titus 3:9-11 Berean Standard Bible

What causes conflicts and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from the passions at war within you? —James 4:1 Berean Standard Bible

—Timothy,
a believer.

@MickHewitt

The above comments are indicative of our need to investigate the attributes of the Spirit - neither to accuse another or to absolve in favour of one or the other, but to understand the reasoning of each other. Reasoning requires dispute in understanding of the genesis of the question, not the person behind it if we are to judge and reason with insight.

There is nothing wrong in dispute. Its root meaning is simply to contend upon what is required (circumcision) or not (meat offered to idols). The over-riding sense of engagement is still love for each other. This extends beyond the academia of what constitutes authority in organisation. Surely this is the manifestation of equality within the Word.

The examination of the attribute of love, with all its very real and necessary tangents of justice, peace, insight, empathy and maturity etc; inform the degree of judgement as to what is necessary insofar as action is concerned. What does it matter to concede a point in favour of peace? To say: “neither am I an authority upon this matter, let us leave it alone for the sake of peace and go away and reason upon it”. Better that than apply the mechanisms of assumed authority. It is still only our interpretation engendered by our own opinion of self. It is just as easy to defeat an argument by walking away from it and allowing the other his space. It costs us nothing unless we too suffer from the same affliction. Pride. It is not our task to pass on problems, but to stop them from igniting in the first place so as not to leave one another burning. Jesus walked back through the crowd seeking to throw him from the cliff: it was not his time.

It does not solve a dispute to pass it on to another, when the answer is within our understanding to resolve it. Neither do we need to know the answer, or to solve it, but in love, to let it go if we cannot make a peaceful reply. That is our gift to our accuser. We fail if we back another into a corner, when we could have easily left the contention with them to solve, as it is theirs to do so anyway. The path of non-resistance. If there is nothing to push against, there is nothing to gain. “Wait upon Jehovah” is an abuse that watchtower apply. We can say instead, “Give me time to think I will get back to you” (The Boreans), thus breaking the circle of gain against another, and allowing tempers to calm.

Enough of metaphors. If we do not seek out the reason why love is the basis of all attributes, without which we have nothing, then we have learnt nothing from this site. Putting aside the incomprehensible issues of site management in academic terms, I know nothing of computers - the understanding of “love” should temper all our actions regardless of our feelings. This is the only manner in which Jesus could make the sacrifice he did, let alone the expression of love shown by Jehovah to give his son - mentioned in that excellent article posted yesterday upon His sacrifice.

We all need to see the mirror of watchtower that is held up for us to contemplate as an example of corruption of the mind. Rules and regulation have sent love to its grave. Belief in what men say is paramount. Their judging cannot be assailed, questioned or ignored. It’s merciless in its inability to seek reasoning, to resolve, to cooperate, to apply insight to the attributes even to themselves or the suffering of others.

We are not like that. We are after all, seeking the truth that they have sold for money. But we must shed our own skin first if we are to put on the robes that have been washed, whatever our destination may be. It applies to all of us. We all know that this could have been resolved another way. No one is at fault, we just do not “understand’ as yet. Will we wait so long as to understand this critical factor and that “….only terror will awaken them.”?

 

[a believer]

Its root meaning is simply to contend upon what is required (circumcision) or not (meat offered to idols). The over-riding sense of engagement is still love for each other.

It has come to our attention that some went out from us without our authorization and unsettled you, troubling your minds by what they said... It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us not to burden you with anything beyond these essential requirements: You must abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals, and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things. —Acts 15:24, 28-29 Berean Standard Bible

Given the Society's own published manuals for elders over the years, as well as its lawyers' and leadership's testimony on record regarding the providing of organizational sanctuary* for those engaging in or having engaged in the sexual violation of children (I would definitely include the viewing of CSA, noted by @Proverbs 14 v 15 in her post!!), I'd say there is no abstention from sexual immorality, per the covertly-worded "Shepherd" manual.

But even if I set that matter aside, the Watchtower organization's own published record establishes that what was sufficient by the direction of Jehovah's spirit in the first century has been determined insufficient by those who, without authorization, have unsettled believers today with their foisting of command upon command, precept upon precept... do not reason, do not investigate, just obey, even when the commands don't make sense.

For all tables were full of vomit and filth, so that there was no more place. Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand the hearing? them that are weaned from the milk, that are drawn away from the breasts. For command, command again; command, command again; expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there. . . To whom he said: This is my rest, refresh the weary, and this is my refreshing: and they would not hear. And the word of the Lord shall be to them: Command, command again; command, command again: expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there: that they may go, and fall backward, and be broken, and snared, and taken. —Isaiah 28:8-10, 12-13 Berean Standard Bible

—Timothy,
a believer.

____________
* The operations manual for elders is closed to the general congregation, as is well known. And "sanctuary" is provided organizationally precisely because the congregation is not made aware of a molester (active or not) in their midst. Even when parents of children are approached privately and individually, it is generalized so that the identity of the molester is kept private and confidential to everyone except the elders— Jehovah forbid that the molester is also an elder, as has been the case, of course!!

 

[Proverbs 14 v 15]

It has come to our attention that some went out from us without our authorization and unsettled you, troubling your minds by what they said... It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us not to burden you with anything beyond these essential requirements: You must abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals, and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things. —Acts 15:24, 28-29 Berean Standard Bible

Given the Society's own published manuals for elders over the years, as well as its lawyers' and leadership's testimony on record regarding the providing of organizational sanctuary* for those engaging in or having engaged in the sexual violation of children (I would definitely include the viewing of CSA, noted by @Proverbs 14 v 15 in her post!!), I'd say there is no abstention from sexual immorality, per the covertly-worded "Shepherd" manual.

But even if I set that matter aside, the Watchtower organization's own published record establishes that what was sufficient by the direction of Jehovah's spirit in the first century has been determined insufficient by those who, without authorization, have unsettled believers today with their foisting of command upon command, precept upon precept... do not reason, do not investigate, just obey, even when the commands don't make sense.

For all tables were full of vomit and filth, so that there was no more place. Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand the hearing? them that are weaned from the milk, that are drawn away from the breasts. For command, command again; command, command again; expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there. . . To whom he said: This is my rest, refresh the weary, and this is my refreshing: and they would not hear. And the word of the Lord shall be to them: Command, command again; command, command again: expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there: that they may go, and fall backward, and be broken, and snared, and taken. —Isaiah 28:8-10, 12-13 Berean Standard Bible

—Timothy,
a believer.

____________
* The operations manual for elders is closed to the general congregation, as is well known. And "sanctuary" is provided organizationally precisely because the congregation is not made aware of a molester (active or not) in their midst. Even when parents of children are approached privately and individually, it is generalized so that the identity of the molester is kept private and confidential to everyone except the elders— Jehovah forbid that the molester is also an elder, as has been the case, of course!!

If just "viewing" is okay, then why did Jesus say that anyone who looks at another lustfully has already committed adultery in his heart (and mind )
Also, what about the fact that these kids being molested for the "audience" What difference does it make in who does the molesting and who does the watching? I'd say from Jehovah's standpoint, both are as guilty as eachother. Are the thousands of elders around the world really that thick that they can't work that out for themselves??

 

[BARNABY THE DOG.]

It has come to our attention that some went out from us without our authorization and unsettled you, troubling your minds by what they said... It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us not to burden you with anything beyond these essential requirements: You must abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals, and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things. —Acts 15:24, 28-29 Berean Standard Bible

Given the Society's own published manuals for elders over the years, as well as its lawyers' and leadership's testimony on record regarding the providing of organizational sanctuary* for those engaging in or having engaged in the sexual violation of children (I would definitely include the viewing of CSA, noted by @Proverbs 14 v 15 in her post!!), I'd say there is no abstention from sexual immorality, per the covertly-worded "Shepherd" manual.

But even if I set that matter aside, the Watchtower organization's own published record establishes that what was sufficient by the direction of Jehovah's spirit in the first century has been determined insufficient by those who, without authorization, have unsettled believers today with their foisting of command upon command, precept upon precept... do not reason, do not investigate, just obey, even when the commands don't make sense.

For all tables were full of vomit and filth, so that there was no more place. Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall he make to understand the hearing? them that are weaned from the milk, that are drawn away from the breasts. For command, command again; command, command again; expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there. . . To whom he said: This is my rest, refresh the weary, and this is my refreshing: and they would not hear. And the word of the Lord shall be to them: Command, command again; command, command again: expect, expect again; expect, expect again: a little there, a little there: that they may go, and fall backward, and be broken, and snared, and taken. —Isaiah 28:8-10, 12-13 Berean Standard Bible

—Timothy,
a believer.

____________
* The operations manual for elders is closed to the general congregation, as is well known. And "sanctuary" is provided organizationally precisely because the congregation is not made aware of a molester (active or not) in their midst. Even when parents of children are approached privately and individually, it is generalized so that the identity of the molester is kept private and confidential to everyone except the elders— Jehovah forbid that the molester is also an elder, as has been the case, of course!!

I find that watchtower has gone beyond logical explanation. They rather reflect end stage psychopathy with their ramblings. I can see them losing their sense or reason before much longer. Their boast about “strange instructions” whatever, is a prelude to such behaviour.

I take refuge in nature. My working lifetime is thankfully over and I have served my time in it and though I enjoyed it, I have no regrets at leaving it behind in the least. Let’s hope in the kingdom and continue to seek Jehovah whilst He still may be found!

My recent study of the scripture suggests that we on this site have had LESS arguments than those of the apostles! So we are doing well.

 

[a believer]

Are the thousands of elders around the world really that thick that they can't work that out for themselves??

Any elder who stands before Jehovah on the day of their rendering an account (Cf. Romans 14:12) and tries to justify their compliance with such ungodliness with "Well, your organization instructed me, and so I obeyed" would do well to refresh their memory on how well that pitiable excuse for inaction in the face of even the most common sense worked out for Adam. (Cf. Genesis 3:12)

As it is, you boast in your proud intentions. All such boasting is evil. Anyone, then, who knows the right thing to do, yet fails to do it, is guilty of sin. —James 4:16-17 Berean Standard Bible

Just sayin'.

—Timothy,
a believer.

 

[noname]

This is a good WT article. But shouldn't have this been regularly discussed and understood for the last 50 years? It is true the dragnet has picked up every manner of fish and crustacean.

I give them cudos for producing it, because it will take pressure off some of the faithful brothers and sisters, , however, "...sins of the father", No matter what the current body does or says they can't win people back as they'd like . But I will give credit where it is due. Because I have to as one of Gods children. Me and some friends have been pointing this out for years along with people on this forum. Meanwhile, many men and women have been burdening the friends with rules upon rules, that doesn't exist in scripture. Which have caused stumbling and for people to lose their faith all together. Forget about the WT article for a minute, its the locals enacting their own rules, beyond even what is written in the WT.
Paragraph 16 "In addition, elders are careful not to read more into theocratic direction than is really there. "
This happens on widescale. Something is written and friends will look into it like there is some big secret behind it, instead of just excepting what is plainly written. This is a tragedy of religion and how people interpret the bible itself as they always try to find something that is not there, instead of plainly excepting what is written and appreciating what God has provided. {For example the creative days....}
The high control body of the past cultivated a high control body of local elders in each congregation for generations. Which in turn they added even to the WT comments. For instance on the beards, the WT never banned beards for baptized witnesses, it was only for those with privileges , pioneers, ministerial servants etc. {listen carefully to the video produced} It was the local elders that enacted a no beard policy on everyone.

 

[a believer]

For instance on the beards, the WT never banned beards for baptized witnesses, it was only for those with privileges , pioneers, ministerial servants etc.

But even this is problematic, is it not? Facial hair appears where Jehovah clearly encouraged it to grow (after all, we must shave it off daily as proof that it's meant to grow there, right?) and there was no such prohibition on beards in the "we add no further commands except these" council decision, so is this not going beyond the things written as incumbent upon Christians?

An expectation that one's beard be groomed would be understandable, in the same way we brush our hair. But to withhold congregational stations of privilege unless one is clean-shaven isn't a scripturally-based prohibition— it's culture driven— even though, scripturally speaking, we are not to be swept up in culture and its trends and fads.

If the organization goes beyond what has been written in these matters, then why are we surprised when the organization's members likewise go beyond what has been written? Why fault the brothers and sisters in the congregation but not lay fault at the upper echelons of leadership which started things down that road?

Cultural trends do not establish Biblical living, surely!

Is this not evidence that Witnesses are trying to blend into the surrounding population all the while claiming to stand apart from said population?

—Timothy,
a believer.

 

[Proverbs 14 v 15]

In the two previous weeks, I summarized the Watchtower Study, primarily sticking with reporting what each paragraph said.

This week's study is so odd that I am instead going to post the Study article verbatim for the forum to discuss as they see fit. I will note only one thing here: there is no mention of when there is a disagreement over an organizational policy or a scriptural understanding; the examples given are for everyday occasions that may arise.

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[Source]

Respect the Decisions of Others

“Do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—ROM. 14:1.

FOCUS
How to show respect for fellow believers when they make decisions that we do not agree with.

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HAVE you ever felt unfairly judged because of a decision you made? Have you ever judged a fellow Christian on the basis of a decision he a made? No doubt most of us could answer yes to both questions.

2 We should not be surprised that at times our decisions differ from those of other faithful Christians. Why? Because we are unique. Each of us has his or her own viewpoint. Our thinking is influenced by our culture, family background, and personal experiences. But we should not allow our differing opinions to threaten the peace and unity of the congregation.—Eph. 4:3.



3 When a fellow Christian makes a decision that we disagree with, we might feel the need to convince him to change his mind or we might voice our concerns to others. Likely, we have good motives. We love our brothers and sisters, and we want what is best for them. (Prov. 17:17) So we do not want to see them make a decision that they will later regret or that could damage them spiritually.



4 Should we discuss our concerns with our brother if we disagree with his decision? That depends on a number of factors. For example, if we learn that he is thinking about doing something that violates a Bible command, then out of love for him, we should try to help him to correct his thinking. (Prov. 27:5, 6) Yet, what should we do if a brother decides to do something that does not break one of God’s laws but simply differs from what we would have done? We find the answer in our theme scripture. We “do not pass judgment on differing opinions.”—Rom. 14:1.

5 Still, we may find it hard to respect his decision. In this article, we will discuss why we should respect the decisions of others and how we can do so. But first, let us consider some situations involving personal decisions that could lead us to pass judgment on our brothers and sisters.

WHAT PERSONAL DECISIONS COULD CAUSE US TO JUDGE OTHERS?



6 As mentioned earlier, we might have strong opinions about certain topics because of our background or experiences. We might assume that others share our viewpoint. Yet, that may not be the case. Consider a few scenarios. Scenario 1: Before learning the truth, a brother grew up with a father who abused alcohol. At a gathering, the brother sees other Christians drinking alcohol. He is disappointed and tells them that what they are doing is wrong. Scenario 2: A sister has successfully battled a serious disease. Later, she learns that another sister has been diagnosed with the same illness. The first sister wants to help, so she pressures her friend to follow the same medical treatment she did—whether by means of a certain diet or through the use of conventional medicine or natural remedies. Scenario 3: A brother used to be a member of a false religion. He hates his former life course. When he learns that a fellow Christian attended a funeral in a church, he is offended.

7 Consider a few additional scenarios. Scenario 4: A brother grew up during a time when most people felt that it was inappropriate for men to grow beards or for women to wear dress slacks to formal events. While the brother is aware of the recent adjustment in our view of this subject, he insistently tells others that Christian men should not wear beards and that Christian women should wear dresses while engaged in theocratic activities. Scenario 5: An elder knew a brother who pursued additional education and later left the truth. Now a young brother in the elder’s congregation has decided to seek additional education. The elder is concerned and tries to convince the young brother and his parents to change their mind.



8 Consider a situation that could affect parents. Scenario 6: As a parent, you work hard to raise your children “in the discipline and admonition of Jehovah.” (Eph. 6:4) But other Christian parents seem to be more permissive than you are. For example, they allow their children to have a later curfew, to play nonviolent video games, or to have a cell phone at an early age. As a result, your child feels that you are being overly strict. “Why can’t you be more like my friend’s parents?” he asks. Such a situation could cause you to become critical of the other parents. The truth is that any Christian’s personal decision that differs from ours could cause disagreements. For example, we might question how he spends his money, how often he goes on vacation, or what entertainment he chooses. But we must not allow our feelings to become more important to us than the unity of the congregation.



9 While the decisions of one Christian may differ from those of another, this does not necessarily mean that one is right and the other is wrong. (Rom. 14:5) Just because Christians are instructed “to think in agreement” when it comes to Jehovah’s standards, this does not mean that we have to think alike in all personal matters. (2 Cor. 13:11) We could compare our personal decisions to the choices we make when we travel to a certain location. Often, there are several different routes that lead to the same destination. We choose the one that suits our preferences and limitations. In a similar way, Christians may make different choices in personal matters, but our destination is the same: We seek to please Jehovah. So we do not judge others for the personal decisions they make.—Matt. 7:1; 1 Thess. 4:11.

** Question 9 instructs the brothers and sisters to look at the image included, which also has the following caption: "Travelers may choose from several routes to reach a destination; likewise, Christians may make different decisions in personal matters when serving Jehovah (See paragraph 9)"

WHY RESPECT THE PERSONAL DECISIONS OF OTHERS?



10 The Bible provides several reasons why we should respect the personal decisions of others. Consider a few of them. We do not have the authority to judge others in personal matters. (Read James 4:12.) Jehovah is the righteous Lawgiver and Judge. Only he has the right to set standards and rules for life. So our brothers and sisters are accountable to Jehovah, not to us. (Rom. 14:10) We do not have the right to judge or criticize the decisions of others based on our own standards or opinions. c



11 Jehovah requires unity among his worshippers, not uniformity. In fact, our God loves variety! We see evidence of this in creation. For example, no two snowflakes are the same. And just think about humans. Of the over eight billion people on earth, no two people are exactly alike in appearance or personality. Jehovah created us to be different. He does not want us to be clones of one another. But he does want us to be united. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We place greater value on the unity of the congregation than on our opinions and preferences.—Rom. 14:19.

** Question 11 has the instruction "see also picture" which has the caption: "Jehovah created us to be different from one another, but he wants us to be united (See paragraph 11)"

HOW TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS OF OTHERS



12 When others make decisions in personal matters. Ask yourself, ‘Is the person taking “a false step” or simply a different step?’ If he is taking a false step, one that violates a Bible command, ask yourself, ‘Do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to readjust him, or is someone else in a better position to do so?’ If you are qualified to help, try to reason with him in a spirit of mildness. (Read Galatians 6:1.) However, you may often find that his choice is simply a different step—one that does not align with your viewpoint. If that is the case, do not question him or speak negatively about his decision. Respect his right to decide for himself, and do not judge him.—Rom. 14:2-4.

13 Think of this comparison: If you went to a restaurant with a friend, would you insist that he order the same food that you ordered? No. You would respect his right to select his own meal. After all, what he chooses to eat has little impact on you. And if the roles were reversed, you likely would not want your friend to order your meal based on his preferences. Similarly, we can show respect for others by allowing them to make personal decisions without trying to impose our opinions on them.

When You Disagree​ If you disagree with the decision of a fellow Christian, try asking yourself the questions below. You may find that this exercise will spare you unneeded worry.—Gal. 6:5. Does his decision violate a Bible command? How might his background have a bearing on his decision? Will his decision really harm him, or am I just imagining the worst-case scenario? What good results might come from his decision? Is he taking “a false step” or simply a different step than I would take? If he is taking a false step, do I have the Scriptural qualifications needed to help him adjust his thinking?

14 When you make decisions in personal matters. You can promote unity by doing your best to avoid offending others. (Read 1 Corinthians 8:12, 13.) At times, you may know that a decision you are about to make is “lawful,” that is, acceptable. But if it will offend your brother, will it be “advantageous”? d (1 Cor. 10:23, 24) In such cases, rather than insist on your rights, consider putting your preferences aside. (Rom. 15:1) But didn’t we just establish that others should respect our decisions in personal matters? Yes. They should respect our choices just as we should respect theirs. But we should also keep in mind the Bible’s counsel found at Romans 12:18, which says: “As far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men.” Therefore, we do all that we reasonably can to maintain peace with others and avoid needlessly offending them.



15 Elders show respect for the decisions of others. Elders contribute to the unity of the congregation by not making rules on personal matters and by not going “beyond the things that are written” in the Bible. (Read 1 Corinthians 4:6.) And by extension, they do not go beyond the Bible-based counsel that is written in our publications. Additionally, when a fellow Christian asks for help, elders are careful not to rely solely on their own experience when giving advice. Instead, they base their counsel on God’s Word.—Isa. 48:17, 18.



16 An elder also shows respect for the collective decisions made by the body of elders. Once the body of elders has prayed for holy spirit, reviewed and applied Scriptural direction, and come to a decision, each elder should support that decision even when his personal opinion is not adopted by the majority. (Eph. 5:17) In addition, elders are careful not to read more into theocratic direction than is really there. For example, an elder would not take a sentence in one of our publications out of context in an effort to support his own personal viewpoint.



17 As we have learned, we are unique. Each of us has his own opinions and preferences. But such variety is a good thing! Our different backgrounds and personalities make the congregation an inviting place to be. So rather than let our differences divide us, we promote peace. We are careful not to offend others. We respect the decisions of others in personal matters. When we do so, our effort will be rewarded. We will enjoy a happy, united congregation.—Ps. 133:1; Matt. 5:9.

HOW CAN THE FOLLOWING SCRIPTURES HELP US TO RESPECT THE VIEWPOINTS AND DECISIONS OF OTHERS? James 4:12 Galatians 6:1 1 Corinthians 4:6; 8:12, 13

Footnotes:

a This information also applies to sisters.

b A number of factors should have a bearing on a Christian’s decision regarding whether to attend a funeral or a wedding in a church. See the article “Questions From Readers” in the May 15, 2002, issue of The Watchtower.

c At times, elders need to judge those who violate Bible commands. However, elders keep in mind that they are judging for Jehovah based on his righteous standards, not their own.—Compare 2 Chronicles 19:6.

d For examples, see the Enjoy Life Forever! book, lesson 35 point 5.

This is gaslighting at its finest. I have no idea how they even have the gall to write such hypocrisy. They have written and spoken this way so much in the past 6yrs that the honest brothers and sisters head's must be spinning. I'm so grateful to Jehovah that I no longer have to listen to all this double speak and double think nonsense, having my head bashed against the wall on a regular basis. The craftiness of the way everything is written and the outright lies, is sickening. They're definitely hoping that brothers and sisters either have a short memory or a "hazy" memory, too hazy to be relied upon. Reminds me of..

"Did God REALLY say that you must not eat from every tree of the garden?"

 

[Proverbs 14 v 15]

I take refuge in nature.

Me too Barney. Along with the Bible, it's the most sanity inducing therapy out there, and that's why Satan is trying to destroy both of them.