Impossible question?

kenmuldoon55 said:
If resurrected formerly married persons wanted to remarry their former mate or someone else, why not? I donā€™t think the emotional bond between two persons is severed at death.
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I remember when I was a young kid like 4-7 years old me and this other girl liked each other. Our parents would say, that would be funny if we ended up marrying each other in the future. I had no idea about marriage back then. Not saying former spouses won't continue the same relationship after the resurrection. I'm just saying we'll be in a different state of mind and how we think about feel might end up being different than how we presently are.
 
Fallen said:
Just my 2 cents: We've all seen movies or heard about people who absolutely hated one another. And suddenly a cataclysmic even occures to where they are forced to work together in order to survive. During that time, their perspectives of one another change. The way the see eachother change. They become softer twards one another. Kinder...gentler. I suppose it'll be the same way during The Great Tribulation. Hard times have a way of changing people. Bringing them together and changing them not necessarily for the worst, but for the better.
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Unfortunately, though stress has ways of bringing people together and appreciating qualities they may have, it is seldom a salve for renewing relationships, because it does not tend to change the issues that caused the rift. What cures rifts is a change of heart - literally an understanding of oneā€™s self and a desire to change and critically, why! It comes from within, rather that without. Though a disaster may cause that self examination, as with all things Hollywood, (and watchtower) it is pure whitewash to think it provides insight. The change of heart is a fundamental alteration and it requires mental tools to provide reasoning and guidance through self analysis of values. The more materialist the society, the more fundamental the thinking at a base level, the more difficult the quest to understand empathy and responsive values that nurture sustainable relationships and insight into the essence of meaning in love. Know thy self. Then others may love you. The golden rule.
 
BARNABY THE DOG. said:
Unfortunately, though stress has ways of bringing people together and appreciating qualities they may have, it is seldom a salve for renewing relationships, because it does not tend to change the issues that caused the rift. What cures rifts is a change of heart - literally an understanding of oneā€™s self and a desire to change and critically, why! It comes from within, rather that without. Though a disaster may cause that self examination, as with all things Hollywood, (and watchtower) it is pure whitewash to think it provides insight. The change of heart is a fundamental alteration and it requires mental tools to provide reasoning and guidance through self analysis of values. The more materialist the society, the more fundamental the thinking at a base level, the more difficult the quest to understand empathy and responsive values that nurture sustainable relationships and insight into the essence of meaning in love. Know thy self. Then others may love you. The golden rule.
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I'm sure that there will be much more emphasis on the spiritual rather than the material in the New world. Attitudes toward relationships may well change because of that. What we feel now about our husband or wife who has passed on may well be different after they are resurrected. I don't really see that Jehovah is going to "reset" our thinking miraculously. ( Free will is part of human psyche). I believe that what we see as priorities will change as a natural consequence of being in an environment that promotes thinking in harmony with Jehovah's will at the time. That may well include the feelings that we have related to former marriage partners. It might seem impossible to think that way right now, especially when grieving the recent loss of a partner ( as I am doing ) but surely Jehovah will give us all the opportunity to make such adjustment ourselves as he knows we will.

In the case of Adam he said:

(Genesis 2:18) It is not good for the man to continue to be alone. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.

That is not going to change. Jehovah does not change. But we will change to see the real meaning of those words come to fruition as we are given the right environment in which to flourish.
 
Niobium said:
I'm sure that there will be much more emphasis on the spiritual rather than the material in the New world. Attitudes toward relationships may well change because of that. What we feel now about our husband or wife who has passed on may well be different after they are resurrected. I don't really see that Jehovah is going to "reset" our thinking miraculously. ( Free will is part of human psyche). I believe that what we see as priorities will change as a natural consequence of being in an environment that promotes thinking in harmony with Jehovah's will at the time. That may well include the feelings that we have related to former marriage partners. It might seem impossible to think that way right now, especially when grieving the recent loss of a partner ( as I am doing ) but surely Jehovah will give us all the opportunity to make such adjustment ourselves as he knows we will.

In the case of Adam he said:

(Genesis 2:18) It is not good for the man to continue to be alone. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.

That is not going to change. Jehovah does not change. But we will change to see the real meaning of those words come to fruition as we are given the right environment in which to flourish.
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Yes, what you say is very probably so. The normality we know cannot be the normality that there was in the beginning. What we have built for ourselves and view as living is hardly reflective of the image we have of Eden and Jehovah is hardly to be found any more. Few can offer any insight into what was, and few indeed are those willing to listen.

The scripture you mention gives further insight though into the responses of the thinking of perfect man, and that is seen in Adamā€™s response in being shown Eve. It is difficult not to read the joy and inner resolution that formed that instant response. ā€œThis is at lastā€¦.ā€ as he went on to describe the depth of acknowledgement that his very soul spoke for him. Though we have lost such instant and cerebral assessment in others, if our desires in all things remain subservient to our spiritual conditioning of heart when choosing a partner, then surely we can expect the same from whom we are given, or find, if that is the case. Given the permanence of commitment, I tend to lean towards the former ā€œgiftā€, rather than the chance ā€œfindā€ - though maybe we might be allowed to feel the latter to be the case! As you point out, the ā€œformer thingsā€ of Rev. 21 will have passed away and that includes our dissatisfaction in life and unreasonableness toward others.

Though natural desires of comeliness will not pass away, we are unlikely to meet ourselves in another when we have already been given by Jehovah, the very other half of our own psyche. Surely, if we saw that in our partner of today, how much more so will we value such in perfection? There are elements then of truth in partners of today. Through imperfection we/they may not be all that we would want or recognise in each other, yet in perfection, how could we not recognise, ā€œbone of my bone and flesh of my fleshā€, whether given her or him, or finding for ourselves? We will be different too in our knowledge of self and perfect in our reasoning - we will ā€œknowā€ our partner as they will ā€œknowā€ us. Though that does not answer the question for couples who survive into the new world, the processes of ā€œbecomingā€œ one (mentally) is not entirely without merit either. We shall see. And, it will be perfect.
 
BARNABY THE DOG. said:
Well, we are to believe that death ends a relationship, and so I do not think that remarriage is a must, but some would want to Iā€™m sure. Loyalty is on the cusp of love in many respects and there are aspects of love in all things marital, along with permanence and sufficiency. Even in perfection there will be perceived faults in a partner, yet the ability to over-ride those things will also be present. However, I see in perfection an enduring marriage. Two become one and in perfection, that must be a thing of beauty, mentally as well as physically. It would of course exclude all others because we are all individual and individuals do not divest themselves of their sense of being. I think marriage will become stronger and the unity of male and female become one in a degree yet to be realised. It seems to be reflected in the relationships and attributes of Jehovah, the lamb and his marriage, the faithful - those that live the essence of the attributes of Jehovah. I do not think it a pipe dream of romance, but a bond that encapsulates the spiritual and our sense of being and needs as human beings. As we are, we are not whole. We need a partner to realise what we are - at least, that is what I feel. It may be different for others, but Iā€™m not sure it is supposed to be!
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ā€œWe need a partner to realise what we areā€
Unfortunately, on account of being unevenly yoked to an unbeliever, Iā€™ll have to take that one on faith.The only realization Iā€™ve arrived at in this marriage is that I make a great pecking post.
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I have the same situation, though I am not pecked, but ā€œpersuadedā€œ - she thinks. I gave the home to the home maker and let her get on with it. Plus my earnings. I am clothed, fed, watered, and my only requisite in life is that my yes is yes and my no, no, but only if it matters and which is rarely, if ever. I put that clause in during courtship, but neglected to tell her. Itā€™s more peaceable. My life is a never ending trail of peace and companionship. Where it matters she always makes the right choice, sometimes unknowingly, and therein is the art-form, though I say so my self. But itā€™s only a rare occasion. All is plain sailing and actually, an enjoyable voyage !
 
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