Indeed. Barnaby knows how much he means to us.Your response is what you feel Jahrule. I just want to add…this “dog“ is a special dog because he does have special wisdom…along with his witty humor too.
And yes, learning to love yourself is very important.
Your response is what you feel Jahrule. I just want to add…this “dog“ is a special dog because he does have special wisdom…along with his witty humor too.
And yes, learning to love yourself is very important.
BTD is a rare fellow indeed. Not many people can explain matters in such a well thought out process. Reading his posts get the gears working.
There’s no such thing as fate kirmmy.
I’m glad you’re happy being alone…as long as you’re happy.
But you don’t know for sure if that will happen. Women aren’t helpless and if husband and wife work together and have a contingent plan in advance. If the one gets captured and herded into a truck to an extermination camp it wouldn’t kill us. We’d still be kept safe by Jehovah. You think it might make us stronger? We can’t expect to avoid everything for the sake of not going through all those hardships you mentioned.
CAN'T find the right person in a global dating marketplace in a world of 8 billion people? Some do generally though nowadays most choose not to entertain the thought of the right person as there hindbrains are drawn to the wrong ones. Most these days waste there youth on bad choices with the "I can fix him" rationale whilst there are options you can suggest for them in their immediate environment that are stable and of good character that don't need to be "fixed" by there charm but that's just boring to them because it doesn't satisfy the ego as far as "taming" someone. No use reasoning my sister into choosing men that aren't irresponsible, aren't greedy, or that wouldnt beat her when good options existed for her. As Jordan Peterson said recently the majority of men are invisible to women and its worse than Parretto principle now it's Parretto squared as far as getting a foot in the door.
Just temporarily identify yourself as a transgender woman before they put you in that dungeon and then they will transfer you over to a 100% female prison population...At least there you dont have to worry about accidentally dropping the bar of soap
Where does one begin?!! How on earth can you claim to get “bored” with your partner? In a partnership both parties grow and evolve in companionship - it is how you grow that matters. Does your partner have to provide you with entertainment and your needs in such variety that your interest is maintained in them? Where is your contribution? Why does the bible advise you to “…drink at your own well”? A well demands maintenance to keep the water fresh and accessible. Then why drink at another man’s well? You do not even mention how you would provide the love and interest to keep your partner interested in you! As for children, why would you not want others to share in your happiness and wonder in life? Where is your joy in living, negotiating, creating interest, valuing another soul, the joy of giving (as well as receiving) and of journeying through life, accomplishment, building a life and learning new things? What if your partner wants a child? Marriage is a Union, a binding of the two elements, male and female in to a singular and complete soul, rather than an individual relationship for ones’s own self gratification. That is why the bible refers to it as “one flesh”. Contrary to what you may assume, we were not ‘made’ to enjoy sex, but merely given the facility and capability of enjoying sex for its mental, loving interpretation of sensuality in the union of love within the soul, and in that, it is a gift above its perfunctory necessity and reward given to animals. There is a vast difference.I was just talking to my mom about this the other night. It’s crazy how the timing of these things works. This actually deeply bothers me and I’m really glad someone else brought it up…
I don’t have any interest in starting a family, I positively do NOT like children. But I do long for having an extremely intimate connection with someone. My main issue is that I’m indecisive with what I like in a woman which means the thought of marrying one person for all eternity terrifies me. What if I’m with them for 50 years and then find someone else I like more? Or what if I get bored of being with the same person? Now I’m just stuck settling and that sure doesn’t sound like paradise to me. I do NOT trust my ability to wisely or accurately chose a wife. Not for the short time we’re on the earth now and most definitely not for an indefinite time period like forever. Plus the fact that the kind of woman I would love, has absolutely zero interest in me whatsoever. I’ve basically been stuck accepting whatever is looking for me and it’s never what I want. Not even close.
Years of putting up with this has driven me to the point of wanting to just give up on the whole idea of love in the first place. I’ve curated this dream to live out in a cabin, thousands of miles away from a single human being, with a herd of dogs, a good fishing spot, and the occasional “company” from our Heavenly Father. I’d get to grow my own food, be surrounded by my best furry buddies and be LEFT THE F@*# ALONE.
I know that ultimately comes from a place of spite. But the only way I’d be even remotely comfortable with the idea of marriage is if I just let God pick for me. He made Eve for Adam after all, I’m sure he’d know best what would make me happy. Better than I do. That being said I’ve been rejected, denied, and not even given a chance so many times I seriously want to just never find anyone on purpose now. It’s like a weird life goal/vendetta thing. To reserve that love I would‘ve gladly given to a woman, for myself. Funny thing is Jehovah ”programmed“ us to want to be together from the very beginning. So at times it genuinely feels like I’m fighting my own programming by thinking this way.
Of course the only problem there is being celibate. (Who doesn’t like sex, after all? We were made to enjoy it) But I imagine being perfect would make being sexless much easier.
Or maybe this is all just me.
A touch of cynicism I detect there Driven! I’m sure Meditator is the perfect hubby!
Someone will like you, even love you. But love yourself first. That is the key.
Interestingly, Jesus never once said to "love thyself". Lol, but I understand why it is said. So many of us grew up in religion that ladened us w/unnecessary guilt, judgement, depression etc that was never meant by Christ's light load. Thus, we have learned to loathe/despise ourself. Accepting God's grace and fully understanding the love of the Christ is akin to loving oneself as being forgiven by God's undeserved kindness. If that makes any sense...
To the contrary, a woman protective of her emotions and needs should be viewed as a precious asset of her integrity to the interested male. Not only that, but adhering to her wishes, makes her value all the more, the fidelity and control of the man. It’s a win win situation for both of them. From solely the male perspective, I may add, there is also the satisfaction therein - if the man succeeds in keeping his mind above his belt, of her eventually having to give in to her own desires and signalling to him that his restraint is no longer required. Now that really is a worthwhile facet of character in headship.
Now what happens if she signals this restraint is no longer necessary and the marriage date has not been set yet or is aways away? Lol, oh boy look out! Rejection can open a can of worms
I could have worded the thought better. By ‘first loving yourself‘, I refer to the need to understand the genesis of one’s own feelings. To be confident, yet not dogmatic, to be certain in your resolve in emotive reasoning and values, constant in temperament, humble, but strong in faith and in dealings with others - the modern idiom of “knowing where you are coming from” and which the bible refers to as not being washed back and forth in your opinions by the waves of the sea, ergo, popular opinion.
You sure couldn't have worded that anymore eloquently and beautifully. One day I hope to see your face and give you a big holy hug too.
Well, that would have been dealt with before hand. It does not pay one well, to build their resolve upon the sands of emotion and less still on lust!Now what happens if she signals this restraint is no longer necessary and the marriage date has not been set yet or is aways away? Lol, oh boy look out! Rejection can open a can of worms
Hear hear! Hear, all ye good people!!!
and what about Mattew 22 v 39 'The second, like it, is this: ‘You must love your neighbor as yourself' Does he not say here that you must first love yourself so that you may love your neighbor in the same way? But correct me if I see it wrong, please.
No one is perfect but we sometimes suffer together.
You forgot to say: Spoken like a REAL MAN…lol
Thank you for the well articulated and thought out response. There’s a few points you made that I’d like to further elaborate on…
Thanks for your reply. Naturally I can only respond to what is written. I have every confidence that you will find your own way in life. I can certainly agree with you over the issue of wanting to run off into the forest and hide. Me too. I would love to get away from this world, but it is not the answer. If you are as lonely and isolated as you describe, just take one day at a time, and try to achieve your goals in a positive way. As chairman mao said at the beginning of his March on Peking, a March of a thousand miles begins with only one step.
Adding to that: Ephesians 5:28-30 “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own body, for he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation, because we are members of his body.“
Not much experience with them toying with people's emotions but I've observed the spidery ones attempt at amplifying anger on one occasion
